Recently we attended a 6th grade “graduation.” The move from 6th to 7th grade seems to me, if not necessarily one to honor in our school system, one that likely marks a very real transition. And even more so than the move from 8th to 9th. It is the end of elementary school after all.
I’ll offer this in attempt at illustration. Our especial 6th grader and his brother, a 4th grader, attend a multi-age classroom ranging from K-6. They have two classrooms connected by a “reading” room which is primarily a kind of closet but seems to serve as a nice throughway as well as a “quiet” place offering seclusion and repose. What has always struck me as ideal about this arrangement is that there is no consistent “peer group” influence. The first year the boys attended our oldest (in 4th at the time) made fast friends with a 6th grader and his younger brother was always able to spend time within that relationship too so they were friends from age 8 to 12. Our youngest has always been a very verbal child and because his brother has always been his bosom companion he has always been attracted to more advanced pursuits than the run of the mill “rough and tumble” of most “boy’s play” early on. His best friends have been his brother’s friends and older girls who like to make believe they are Potteresque and/or Alchemists. In short (if that was short) this group has never really been confined to age groupings standing as “peer” boundaries. They are friends with children of every age in the classroom. That makes them attentive and aware of the varying ways of “being” and “becoming” that kids must traverse on the road to maturity.
Further, there is no single focus that is “age specific” and/or “maturationally” obvious.
To clarify that: at the graduation one 6th grade class in particular seemed, almost to a student, to be dressed for prom. The girls in particular were mostly dressed for a night out. They were not dressed for a 6th grade graduation, which is an “end of elementary school” graduation. I have in mind the appropriate attire might be something you’d wear to church or to a family photograph. More formal, sure, but not a display of sexual maturity. Which is honestly how I “read” a prom dress. A friend offered the thought that perhaps one or more of these girls could be “more mature” and by their year-long proximity and peer relationship they all gravitated toward that manner of dress and cultural display. Of course we all know that so many kids also seem to live their lives in parallel to their parents and so are in constant contact with adult entertainment and our entertainment culture’s values.
This seemed to me a very clear distinction between a the multi-age group which promotes no specific peer “pressure” to become a particular kind of (in)appropriately social being. No pressure to “project” your future pubescent and then adolescent sexual self.
In other words, they were still kids.
I find this another positive affect of the multi-age classroom. No hurry to “grow up”; no hurry to replicate cultural “tween” (read as “pre-sexual” sexuality) attitudes and postures; the culture is one of classroom diversity of maturation and interest and not a singular focus on the “one way” to be grown up (look sexually prepared).
I think that this kind of environment encourages relationships that respect the whole individual and not a single aspect growing up that we deem age-specific. The kids often have spent the entire elementary school period with the same classmates and the same teachers. In this they learn that people are complex and deserve to have all of there various aspects be of concern and not just those that our adult entertainment culture pushes on them. They don’t go year to year changing classes and classmates and teachers and “learning” to judge and evaluate the “covers” of children. They don’t simply assess clothing styles and economic markers; the don’t label by “attractiveness” as if each of them must be an object to measure on culturally received values. They’ve grown up with each other and know how much more they are. A class that has just 8-year-olds or 12-year-olds or single age groupings teaches (and through curriculum and instruction as well) that an 8-year-old “should be like X.” It teaches a prejudicial perspective and that lesson is then applied fairly consistently in other areas of life. The multi-age classroom teaches the opposite: that there is no right way to be at a particular age–no right way to be period.
A person grows according to environmental variables just like plant-life. A mulberry tree on one street produces a tart berry, on a different street a sweet berry. There are many reasons for this–sun exposure and soil, age of the tree, and so on. Children grown in this manner as well. One type of environment and one kind of expectation will yield one narrow type of person and not one who will be very much “him/herself”–but rather simply a replication of cultural expectations. Unfortunately, this is what so many people think school should do.
I am not one of them. If you have the chance to “plant” your child in a mult-age school environment I think you should do so. They will grow in surprising ways but they will grow consistently in empathy and understanding.
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